Your Model of Reality

Your Model of Reality

The way we see the world is based on our past experiences, life scenarios, and how our inner filters process that information. Two people can witness the exact same event, and process it in completely different ways.

It’s important to understand the way we are filtering this information as it determines our programming.

When we understand our internal process, only then can we start to shift our thoughts, uplevel and change our reality.

Whatever is programmed in our subconscious mind is how our subconscious will work to live out that program in reality.

In this diagram you can see how we process and filter information.

Our subconscious mind is filtering millions of bits of information at one single time. It’s the things we see, hear, smell, taste and touch.

If we were to be aware of every single one of those, we would be overwhelmed and unable to filter what is important and what is not.

So our subconscious mind will generalize, delete, and distort information.

It deletes what it determines irrelevant at the time.

It will generalize things to make it easier to process. So instead of noticing all of the leaves on a tree and the size of them, etc. you will notice only that there are a lot of trees.

It also distorts information, which is really important to pay attention to. If someone says to you “nice shirt” depending on your internal filters, you may take that as a compliment OR think they are being sarcastic and making fun of you.

This is the reason that our model of reality, isn’t necessarily reality at all. It’s all based on our programming and what we’ve been “taught” to believe.

Everything is context and we filter information based on the following:

Time – if someone calls you in the middle of the day it probably feels like a regular thing. But if they call in the middle of the night you will likely be concerned

Location- If someone is talking at a high volume, in a library it would be considered loud, but at a concert it would be normal

Mood- When you were little you may have learned that if someone was angry you should hide and be quiet, where if they were in a good mood you could play and ask them for them. As an adult, you may find yourself reverting back to these behaviours based on other peoples moods

Language- The way we understand words and tones will determine how we think someone is communicating with us. If someone speaks in a really monotone voice, you may think they are uninterested, bored, or even mad at you — but in reality they just speak like that and it has nothing to do with you.

Memories – Our memories will determine how we feel about current things. If you had a good experience with something, say like you had so much fun swimming in your pool, you will probably still love swimming as an adult, however, if someone threw you into a pool and you couldn’t swim, you’d be wary of being around pools and be untrusting of others around you there.

Decisions- We have both limiting and unlimited decisions that we’ve decided about. If for example, you’ve decided that in order to have a successful business you have to have a Master’s in business, but you don’t have that, you will never think you are capable of running a successful business. It limits the opportunities that you think are available to you.

Beliefs- Like decisions, we will only live within what we believe to be true. If you believe that money is hard to make/ you have to work hard for money, your subconscious works to live within that. However, if you believe the opposite, that money can come so easily, you’ll find more opportunities where it does easily come to you.

Values- What is important to you at a deep level? If health and fitness is very important to you, you will have no problem making healthy food and movement part of your day/ a priority. However, if you value working and providing for your family more than health and wellness, you may not find the time to fit in a workout because your priority is to get straight to work.

Identities- How you see yourself is how you live out your reality.

When you say “I am….” what comes after that is how you identify.

Like I am a mom, I am a business owner, I am a coach…

You will act according to this identity. (This is why it’s hard to adapt to or take on new habits without first seeing yourself as someone who already is”

So, to bring it all together. These millions of bits of information come in and it’s generalized, deleted, or distorted and then filtered based on the filters we just spoke about. Then it becomes an internal representation or “our subconscious programming”.

Our programming dictates how we feel and our emotions dictate our behaviors, actions, and vibrations, and those determine the results.

Let’s say you decide to host a live workshop. You fully believe you’re going to do so great with this. You can see the people signing up, you know you’re going to hit them hard with value and you are going to change people’s lives. You will have a great feeling about this and that will cause you to take the appropriate actions and behaviours and align your vibration with successful results

However, if you tried hosting a live event in the past, and it wasn’t successful, no one signed up, or you had bad reviews, you are going to fear that happening again. Your actions and behaviours will be determined by your fear and would be very different from the actions you take if you fully believe in your ability. Even if you decided to try again, without doing the inner work to rewrite this programming, you won’t show up in the same vibration as the first example. Your actions won’t be as high value, as you don’t truly believe in yourself and the results won’t be a highly successful event.

This works on a cycle. If we have great results, we then process the future based on these results. But it also works negatively as well. That’s why we can often feel like we are stuck or running on a perpetual hamster wheel.

The amazing news is that we CAN rewrite our programming.

Instead of focusing on the same negative patterns we feel stuck in, we want to focus on the opposite, positive outcomes and results. And once we start to see positive results, it changes our internal filters. And the cycle gets better and better every time.

It’s so important to understand this to achieve any goal because if you haven’t been able to achieve your goal yet, we want to look at our internal filters and the patterns that we keep ending up in.